“I don't believe in
colleges and universities. I believe in libraries because most students don't
have any money. When I graduated from high school, it was during the Depression
and we had no money. I couldn't go to college, so I went to the library three
days a week for 10 years.” ― Ray Bradbury
Listening is a crucial talent to cultivate. It helps you learn,
develop friendships, and display your good manners by being kind and sharing
the talking time. But not everyone coincide on what good listening behavior is.
As you read the following thought for building better listening
skills, think about how you get good listening practices in your Life.
Listening Helps You
Learn extra and better
Listening is a lot like reading .it presents a chance to learn
something new and it requires focusing on what's being said. People have to pay
courtesy to the concept and details that the speaker is talking about. Unlike
reading, when people are listening then they have a chance to ask the speaker
questions to help them to understand or to get more information.
Asking questions is an
major part of listening. It tells the speaker what people learned and what else
they'd like to know. And by answering questions, the speaker can help the
audience to learn more.
Listening Helps Build
Friendships with stranger
Listening is a good way to build a friendship with stranger. Good
listeners know that others like to be heard, that they enjoy sharing stories
about themselves, and they like the sense of association when they share
information, confidences, and jokes with another person.
Listening Deliberately
Is Sign of Good Manners
Listening to people when they're speaking to you shows them that
you respect them. So for successful attentive listener you need to start by
looking at the difference between poor listener and a good listener.
A poor listener has
following characteristics so please avoid it to become effective listener:
- Interrupts the speaker when he is explaining topic.
- Thinks only about what he or she is going to say next without paying attention.
- Pays attention to other things going on that place.
- Looks away from the person speaking.
- Makes side comments to others audience who is participating on the event.
A good listener has following characteristics:
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- Concentrate on the person talking and allows him or her to finish talking first.
- Gives nonverbal signals to show he or she is listening - a nod, smile, or frown.
- Looks at the other person - to indicate readiness to listen, and to notice the person's body language to learn more about how the speaker is feeling
- I am not sure what you mean. (Asking for Justification)
- Uses verbal signals to show interest in what the speaker is saying or to give feedback, with phrases such as I didn't know that OR Uh huh. (Showing encouragement to speaker)
- If I understand you correctly… or You said that… (Showing an understanding of what the speaker said)
- Tries to use the same energy and emotional level as the speaker, to show an appreciation of what the speaker is feeling.
How to cultivate Effective Listening Skills
Effective listening skills are foremost - whether you're in a
classroom with fifty people or in a conversation with one. As with any talent
listening also requires practice, so keep these four things in mind before practicing:
· Look the speaker in the eye
when he is speaking.
· Encourage the speaker with
smiles, nods and with relevant question related to topic
· Pay attention to the
facial expressions and body language as well as the words of the speaker.
· Remain interested in
understanding the speaker by always being attentive.
